Listen to your Mental Health

Sveta (Left) and I (right) When I asked her to be my maid of honor.
Hello Lovelies,
My name is Ellie and today I'm here to talk to you about something that is incredibly close to my heart. March 14th, also known as Pi Day, was my best friend, Svetlana’s 26th birthday. This blog is a little bit late but it's been kind of hard to actually put out.  Unfortunately about a year and a half ago we lost her to Suicide, but in honor of her birthday, I would like to talk about mental health.
Before I start, I do want to make a note. So read these words slowly and carefully.
You are worthy of all good things in this life.
You are worthy of all good things in this life. And I am so proud that you have gotten this far in a world that would rather tear you down then build you up.
It is so important to take care of your mental health. It's just as important to take care of your mental health as it is to take care of your physical health. Most of us will go to the doctor when we're sick, when our body aches, when we can feel something wrong with our physical self. But most of us will not go to the doctor when there's something with us wrong mentally. There is a lot of stigma around mental illness. Think of someone saying “there's something mentally wrong with you” we take that as a huge insult! It shouldn't be. I have a mental illness, I also have high blood pressure but no one is shaming me for that genetic illness.
We tend to attempt to hide our issues from our friends and loved ones, whether it's because we don't want to be the person to drag them down or we don't want to burden anyone. This is the lie that mental illness would like people to believe. But it's just that, a lie. Even if you think you're the best at hiding your mental health issue your friends and family are still sensing it. For example, with me if I'm having a lot of anxiety, I get really irritated really fast. It can cause me to lash out and it's not fair to them or me to act like this based on how I'm feeling. I also tend to make a lot of really fun plans to go to the Lavender Festival,go to the movies, go get Starbucks, and at the last minute I cancel. It's nothing against my friends. It's not that I don't want to go, in fact afterwards I usually wish I had gone. It's important to put our mental health first. When things are just too much, tell your friends and family! If your family and friends are truly supportive of you, they're going to understand and take it easy on you. The number one goal is to help you to get better and put yourself first. This can be going to the doctor, a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor. It can mean getting put on medication but it doesn't have to. Some people need medication to feel like they're living a normal life. Some people can exercise and make sure they get enough air, exercise, and water and just see a counselor. Mental health is an individual case by case basis. We are all so different and some people, like me, have to do all of the above. I have to be on medication. I have to try to drink enough water. I sleep with crystals under my pillow at night. I paint and do stress-relieving activities. I need all of the above and that's okay. Whatever your fixes if it is improving your mental health and not avoiding the issue, it's okay. Everyone is going to have their own opinion on it. People are going to say ignorant  things like ‘the new medication is the woods’ or something similarly dumb. This is just simply not true. Some people can do really well with alternative methods but others can't. I can't fix genetically caused blood pressure issues in the woods, I promise. I also can't fix the synapses in my brain like that. It's ridiculous to think A) I haven't already tried that and B) You know anything about my mental health to speak on it.
What's most important is that you're taking care of yourself, you're going to get help if you need it. You are needed in this world and you have been put on this earth for a purpose. Without you that purpose will never be fulfilled and I know sometimes (because I've been there) it can feel like there's no other way out other than to do something drastic, but I can promise you with the right amount of whatever your fix is, for me medication and support, life really does get better. The circumstances in your life are ever-changing. Whatever you are facing at this moment is really so small. If you need help I am going to put links at the bottom of this post for the suicide hotline, as well as low cost/free clinics in your area. If there is nothing here that is in your area if you go to your county or Nearest government building typically at least in the United States, they have low-cost or free Mental Health programs.
Remember to be kind to others and you are doing a great job here on this Earth!

Suicide Hotline: 1 (800) 273-8255 or text 741741
https://www.opencounseling.com/hotlines-us
http://www.contacthelpline.org/emotional-listening-support

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